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it's been a battle for me deciding whether or not to homeschool ava. i've had so many mixed reviews from parents, friends, and family that made me feel as though i was being pulled by my wrists from each direction. is it a good choice? will i be able to teach her everything correctly? will she be missing out in the social aspect of things? a lot of parents say absolutely not, and she will be underdeveloped and socially awkward once she get's to high school, but then other parents tell me it's the best choice these days with how curriculums are changing and school's budgets are being cut leading to weakening education.
i wasn't homeschooled. i went to preschool, and then i went to public school. i never had a perspective on what it would be like to be home and learning from a parent. i had extra curricular activities, but to this day i'm socially awkward. it takes me either an alcoholic bev, or someone to spark up a conversation first in order to be normal around people i don't know. speaking in front of a crowd? forget it. i'm nervous as all get out and ready to puke the entire time. sooooo, can't say that being in public school helped with that.
my husband, however, was homeschooled. all the way up until his freshman year of high school. he was quiet, but never awkward when i met him MY freshman year (he was a senior when i was a freshman). he was funny, he laughed and he always went out of his way to talk to me. the whole ten years i've known him, he's never had a problem with socialization. in fact, he does more out of his comfort zone then i thought he ever would and i admire him for that. he effortlessly flew through school. never taking a book home and always excelling in classes. math? numbers? the guy knows peoples cars by memorizing their license plates. he knows all of his credit card numbers by heart. me? what's 2+2? he he.
THAT FACE!
ava's four now and it's been time for pre-school for awhile. while i was still working she was homeschooled by my mother in-law, and since i've been home i've tried to collaborate and figure out fun homeschooling activities for us to do. needless to say, i've failed. so, recently we went to look around our town for preschools again. i really can't help but to think that i would be paying someone who doesn't even have teaching credentials $400+ a month to basically babysit my kid. i mean, okay you have circle time for 30 mins and learn their abc's and to count to 20? ava knows her abc's. cripes, she can write her name, dog, cat, ham, and fish. she can count to 50. she knows every nursery rhyme known to man. she's a smart cookie!
i expressed this frustration to my mother in-law recently and she turned me to the homeschool series she did with the boys by ann ward. it's a christian based, day-by-day learning guide teaching your kids from home. waaaay old school, but totally my style. i've given it a lot of thought and i just can't budge to put her in preschool when i have the golden opportunity to be my child's teacher, and leader. i know in the long run seeing her success hands on will light up my life! i want her to be able to have interaction with other kids, and she does. we have plenty of day trips to the park where she is not timid whatsoever to walk up to another little girl and ask if she wants to play. she's in dance, and we hope to get her into soccer and t-ball when she's old enough. plus, guess what? i found out that we locally have homeschooling groups that brings other parents of homeschooled children together for field trips and tutoring classes. i'm pretty excited about it all.
book is ordered and i can't wait for it to show up on my door step. any homeschooling mama's want to give this mama some tips?!



I recently started homeschooling my son who is in 6th grade. He has always known public school, so this is a transition for him and myself. We are homeschooling because we moved to North Carolina-enrolled him in school-then realized his school is the "troubled" school. There are more details but for the sake of keeping this comment short, I'll leave it at that. :) I understand completely about the constant barrage of--what if's, buts, and socialization questions from others & myself. Homeschooling is a tough choice to make, but I completely agree with you in everything you have said. And just as a side note, my son has performed much better than he ever did in public school. I've been able to teach him the "right" way to study, and that taking notes are important in learning. When he has trouble in something, he can receive the teachers (me) full attention to help him understand. It hasn't been easy to correct his bad school habits, but it has been worth seeing his grades go from failing-70% up to 85-94% on his exams. Okay, this comment is uber long! Sorry!
ReplyDeleteDon't be sorry Liz! Thank you for your input. I love reading your success with your son, and you should give YOURSELF a pat on your back for all of your hard work in the process. That's a tough switch for the both of you. So glad to hear that he's excelling now with your help. It's a hard decision because it takes a lot of patience (especially with a four year old) and learning how to structure everything in the every day life, but I think I'm ready for it. Thanks mama!
DeleteI have a three and a half year old, who is not in preschool. I would like to homeschool him, and his younger brother (18 months), but I am having the same hesitations that you spoke about in this post. Thank you for sharing your concerns. As I understand, they are what most newcomers to homeschooling feel. Trust your instincts! I am looking forward to more homeschooling posts from you, both for inspiration and for guidance (no pressure:)). Best of luck to you and your little one as you embark on this journey.
ReplyDeleteYes Amy I agree. Trust your instincts! I just feel like the time with your kids is so valuable and time flies quicker every day. Being able to be their leader I just can't pass up. If you decide to do it let me know! I want to hear how everything works out for you as well :)
DeleteGood luck figuring it out! My son is three, and I've definitely been thinking about home schooling in the future. None of my family support the idea, my husband included, but there are so many issues I have with the current school system (teaching for the test, safety, not enough individual help, bullying) that I don't know if it's how I want him raised.
ReplyDeleteI'd definitely look into your local network of moms. One of the moms in my sons library class does it, and she was talking about how they partner up for field trips and different activities, and she brings the kids to library and other classes for interaction. I also saw when we joined the gym that the YMCA has an open swim period just for homeschooled kids too -so it'd be a great way to interact with others children too.
Hi holly! Sounds like that's exactly what the group that gets together here does. My mother in law used to do it with her boys and enjoyed it. It's tough when family isn't supportive because it makes you wonder if you're not doing the right thing but in the end I believe mama's know best! Keep me updated with your decision xoxo
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